That is an absolutely absurd and unprofessional response from a mental health "professional". He needed to acknowledge my concern and address it directly. His desire or lack thereof to do anything has no place in our therapy. He is supposed to be the professional and decent professionals make an effort to be culturally competent- meaning they educate themselves on their clients' beliefs and culture. No one is asking him to study the Cathechism. He just needs to know a couple basics that are essential to the issues we are working on in therapy. After 7 months of not feeling heard by this person I am paying big money to just listen to me, I have made the scary decision to terminate our couple's work with him and find a new therapist. This was a huge leap of faith because it took an act of God to get my husband to agree to therapy in the first place. "Starting over" with someone else is going to mean a lot more work for us. I'm trying to pray for the grace to forgive this therapist. I feel so angry and let down right now.
The devil wants me to focus on the problem- to continue to obsess about this person's unprofessionalism, wasted time and money, hurt, etc but this just detracts from my focus on my marriage and the Lord's desire to bring us healing.
This is what's speaking to my heart today.
Thanks for your comment on my blog!
ReplyDeleteI think you hit the nail on the head with the way the devil wants us to obsess over things that we can't change rather than working with God on the things that we can. I will be praying for you!
I am so sorry that you are not only struggling in your marriage, but that the therapist is unwilling to serve you in the way you need.
ReplyDeleteI will be praying for you as you discern a new therapist.
St. Raphael is the patron of troubled marriages (not necessarily "in" trouble - I hope this makes sense), so ask for his intercession as well!
Thank you, Rebecca! I didn't know about St. Raphael. I will definitely start praying for his intercession. :-)
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